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Dealing with Separation Anxiety in Children: A Parent’s Guide to Stress-Free Drop-Offs

Dealing with Separation Anxiety in Children: A Parent’s Guide to Stress-Free Drop-Offs

Starting childcare is a big milestone, for children and parents. But as exciting as it is, it can also come with a wave of emotion, especially when it involves tearful goodbyes at drop-off. If you’ve experienced that heart-wrenching moment when your child clings to you or cries as you leave, you’re not alone. Separation anxiety is a common and completely normal part of early childhood development.

 

At Young Academics, we work closely with families to create smoother transitions into care.

 

What is Separation Anxiety?

Separation anxiety typically starts around 6 to 8 months of age and can reappear or intensify during key transitions, such as starting a new childcare centre or classroom. It’s a natural developmental phase where a child becomes more aware of their surroundings and begins to understand the concept of object permanence that people and things continue to exist even when they’re out of sight.

 

While it’s often most intense during toddlerhood and preschool years, some children experience it earlier or later, depending on temperament, previous experiences, and environmental factors.

 

Why Do Drop-Offs Trigger It?

Drop-offs can be especially challenging because they combine:

  • Physical separation from a primary caregiver
  • A new and stimulating environment
  • Uncertainty about when you’ll return

 

For children, this can feel overwhelming. Even if they enjoy their time at childcare, the moment of goodbye can still trigger feelings of fear or uncertainty.

 

How to Support Your Child Through Separation Anxiety

  1. Create a Consistent Drop-Off Routine

Children thrive on predictability. A simple, consistent routine each morning like brushing teeth, packing their bag together, and saying a special goodbye can help ease anxiety. Keeping goodbyes short and positive sends the message that leaving is normal and okay.

  1. Use a Transitional Object

A comfort item, family photo, or soft blanket, can offer reassurance throughout the day. Many educators are happy to help children manage and use these objects appropriately in the classroom.

  1. Talk About What to Expect

Before arriving at the centre, talk your child through what their day might look like: “You’ll get to paint, have morning tea, play outside, and then I’ll be back after rest time.” Helping them visualise the day gives them a sense of control and familiarity.

  1. Stay Calm and Confident

Children take cues from your energy. Even if you’re feeling a bit emotional, showing confidence during the goodbye helps reassure your child that they’re safe. Avoid sneaking away this can increase anxiety and reduce trust.

  1. Work With Your Educators

Our team at Young Academics is trained in managing separation anxiety. Let your child’s educators know how things are going at home, and ask for updates or strategies they’re seeing work in the classroom. This collaboration can help ease the transition for everyone.

  1. Celebrate Progress

No matter how small, celebrate your child’s achievements. Whether it’s a drop-off without tears or staying calm for a little longer, positive reinforcement helps build resilience and emotional confidence.

 

When to Seek Additional Support

While separation anxiety is a normal phase, you may want to speak with a professional if:

  • It continues intensely for several weeks with little improvement
  • Your child shows signs of anxiety throughout the day, not just during drop-off
  • It begins to interfere with sleep, appetite, or overall wellbeing

 

In these cases, a child psychologist, your GP, or an early intervention service may be able to help with tailored support.

 

Separation anxiety can be tough but it’s also a sign of strong attachment, which is a great foundation for healthy development. With patience, consistency, and the right strategies, most children move through this phase with growing confidence.

 

At Young Academics, we’re committed to supporting families through every stage of the early learning journey. If you’re facing challenges with separation anxiety, don’t hesitate to reach out to your centre’s team, we’re here to help.

 

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